written by Sara Ashbaugh
War and Peace is a novel about
relationships, including romantic relationships between several of the
characters. While these relationships provide important information on Russian
culture, they also give insight into Tolstoy’s views on what a successful marriage
looks like. None of the most successful relationships in the novel involve
particularly passionate love; rather they focus on the importance of
compatibility and partnership in a marriage. The surprisingly successful
matches between Boris and Vera, Natasha and Pierre, and Nicholas and Mary are
examples of this. In each case, the couples’ defining feature is how well they
work together as a partnership. Boris and Vera, although they bicker frequently
and struggle for power, ultimately help one another accomplish their goals. Although
there is no struggle for power in the relationship between Natasha and Pierre,
there is a power imbalance. The same power imbalance is seen in the
relationship between Natasha’s parents, with the wife having more control. However,
Tolstoy does not present this imbalance as a negative, on the contrary, it
appears to be the reason the relationship is successful. It makes it possible
for the pair to make decisions and work together effectively. Rather than
treating idealized passionate love as the key to marital success, Tolstoy
recognizes the power of simple compatibility. In fact, the relationships in the
novel that did involve passionate love, like Nicholas and Sonya or Natasha and
Andrew, were not successful. Tolstoy seems to have a realistic idea of what
makes a successful partnership